That's your inner critic hard at work messing with your mindset, putting you in a bad mood and making you feel like you're worthless.

But all that can change and it starts with the ability to identify those negative thoughts and recognize them for what they are, trash talk that has no place in your mind.

Over the next few weeks make a note of these thoughts as they make an appearance, and see how you can reverse engineer them.

All too often we can be our own worst enemies with the words we put inside our heads and the stories we tell ourselves. 

Stop your inner critic in its tracks and quit judging yourself so harshly. Rid your mind of the doom and gloom, and replace each negative thought with something more positive.

So often this type of self-criticism stems from something more deep-rooted, possibly from a past experience, childhood or time spent with certain people that made it impossible to see yourself in a positive light.

But that all stops now. 

Show yourself the same compassion you would a friend or loved one, you're just as important and equally deserving.

Phrases such as "You might have looked good before the kids, but not any more." could be changed to something like "All things take time and I'm working on feeling good again, I'm enjoying the journey."

Never forget you have the power to make these mindset shifts and be in control of the voices inside your head. And when you take that power and make those changes, it can have a massive impact in reclaiming a happy and healthy sex life.