And with all that pressure is it any wonder that when a part of us stops feeling desirable, at least in our own eyes, our sexual appetite diminishes, if not completely disappears?
Reframing your relationship with desire starts with the way you feel about your own body. And the first step is to throw away the so-called rule book on how society dictates we should look to be desirable.
When you do this, however hard it might be, you'll be validating your self-worth from within rather than looking for it externally from others, which will make what comes next so much easier.
It's time to allow yourself to be the star of your own fantasy.
This can take any form you want but let your imagination wander, explore the fantasy in your head and see where the story takes you.
Close your eyes and get lost in the fantasy that's happening inside your head means. And remember you're in complete control of what happens and where it goes.
Try not to censor yourself instead let go of your inhibitions, bring down that security barrier and bask in the knowledge that you are completely irresistible and utterly desirable.
It's important to set aside the space and time to do this as this is a big step in regaining your confidence. Learning to stop finding fault in your body, and loving yourself and everything that goes with it, will kickstart your low libido.
When you feel good about yourself, desirable in your own mind, and like the way you look, it can have a massive impact in reclaiming a happy and healthy sex life.
